From the beginning of last week I could no longer describe myself as ‘a 20-something year old’, the clock has ticked over and 2014 is the year when I say goodbye to my twenties and hello to my proper adulthood the 30s. So for now, everywhere I go I have to reprogram to describe myself as a ’30-something year old’…well at least I have one more year left till I have to say that.
However, it’s kind of odd and embarrassing when I’m out with my kids, and someone asks me ‘Are those your brothers and sisters?’. I could have died of ‘happiness’ on the spot. As I am often mistaken for a teenager, still studying and preparing for my year 12 ball (apparently these situations have only happened in the past year or so – strangely in the last year of my twenties). I guess my twenties was the decade where I had a lot of growing up to do and FAST, I got married had my three beautiful babies and now I feel I am a lot more stable and confident knowing what I want to do with the rest of my life.
Although, during my twenties I couldn’t give myself 100% to find out who I really am. I dedicated the time to raising my children, helping them to find themselves. And I developed a very caring, motherly role…and this will continue for the rest of my life. But I also have to realise I still have to leave time for me, to do that soul searching that other 20-somethings have the opportunity to do. I never really had the travel bug or want to study more. One degree is enough! For me, to find myself is to find a way to contribute to the world. I just want to make a difference to have a voice and teach/motivate/help others to find themselves if they are feeling lost.
So if I could give some advice to my 30 year old self, let me suggest a few things:
– be strong in the face of failure and mistake. To grow wings again and to start again if need be
– allow time for relaxation, quiet and things that bring you pleasure to be enjoyed
– speak up when things do not make you happy
– say ‘no’ more
– pick your opportunities and go full speed ahead
– continue to see the positives and the light in times of darkness
– lift up those who have lost the strength to carry on
– meet new friends, make new bonds and connections
– take deep breaths and enjoy the naturescapes around you
– take care of yourself mentally and physically as further down the track your body will thank you
I have so many things I still need to learn and listen to my inner self. No matter how old we are we are constantly learning, absorbing, feeling and we shouldn’t allow age or a number to dictate how ‘mature’ we get. I have spoken to many 70 and 80 year old who still giggle and joke around like teenagers. Beauty fades but the heart still remains the same.
Stay tuned for my Birthday Haul video coming soon. I’m currently working on the editing and should be up tomorrow.
Have a great week!