Adios 20s and Hello to the 30s

From the beginning of last week I could no longer describe myself as ‘a 20-something year old’, the clock has ticked over and 2014 is the year when I say goodbye to my twenties and hello to my proper adulthood the 30s. So for now, everywhere I go I have to reprogram to describe myself as a ’30-something year old’…well at least I have one more year left till I have to say that.

30 birthday cake

However, it’s kind of odd and embarrassing when I’m out with my kids, and someone asks me ‘Are those your brothers and sisters?’. I could have died of ‘happiness’ on the spot. As I am often mistaken for a teenager, still studying and preparing for my year 12 ball (apparently these situations have only happened in the past year or so – strangely in the last year of my twenties). I guess my twenties was the decade where I had a lot of growing up to do and FAST, I got married had my three beautiful babies and now I feel I am a lot more stable and confident knowing what I want to do with the rest of my life.

Although, during my twenties I couldn’t give myself 100% to find out who I really am. I dedicated the time to raising my children, helping them to find themselves. And I developed a very caring, motherly role…and this will continue for the rest of my life. But I also have to realise I still have to leave time for me, to do that soul searching that other 20-somethings have the opportunity to do. I never really had the travel bug or want to study more. One degree is enough! For me, to find myself is to find a way to contribute to the world. I just want to make a difference to have a voice and teach/motivate/help others to find themselves if they are feeling lost.

So if I could give some advice to my 30 year old self, let me suggest a few things:

–  be strong in the face of failure and mistake. To grow wings again and to start again if need be

–  allow time for relaxation, quiet and things that bring you pleasure to be enjoyed

–  speak up when things do not make you happy

–  say ‘no’ more

–  pick your opportunities and go full speed ahead

–  continue to see the positives and the light in times of darkness

–  lift up those who have lost the strength to carry on

– meet new friends, make new bonds and connections

–  take deep breaths and enjoy the naturescapes around you

– take care of yourself mentally and physically as further down the track your body will thank you

I have so many things I still need to learn and listen to my inner self. No matter how old we are we are constantly learning, absorbing, feeling and we shouldn’t allow age or a number to dictate how ‘mature’ we get. I have spoken to many 70 and 80 year old who still giggle and joke around like teenagers. Beauty fades but the heart still remains the same.

Stay tuned for my Birthday Haul video coming soon. I’m currently working on the editing and should be up tomorrow.

Have a great week!

E-von

Bridesmaid diary – Mishy’s Hen’s night

Hello Saturday! It’s been a busy week but I’m glad I can finally sit down and post about what happened last Saturday when I had my Bestie’s Hen’s night. I am one of the bridesmaids… so I felt it was my duty to make sure the Bride-to-be had an awesome time. I have never organised a ‘girls night out’ Hen’s before, I wondered where to start? I searched the internet for games, decoration ideas and I had become pinner-friendly on Pinterest. By the end of the planning I had become obsessed with phallic shapes and coconuts.

pink glasses

hens night 2

bags

Her wedding will be in Bali so it was only appropriate to have a ‘tropical’ theme Hen’s night. So I shopped for grass skirts, pink plastic martini glasses, coconuts and more. The decorations turned out perfectly, I even managed to DIY some tissue paper pom poms by using the Martha Stewart online tutorial.

DIY poms poms

I didn’t know whether I would don the coconuts and grass skirt myself so I picked up two wearable outfits from Portmans. The mix of colours and patterns look very tropical and they will be sure to come along with me to Bali. Thanks for your help on Instagram and Facebook on which one to wear. In the end I thought the more practical one would have to be the short length dress. And surely by the end of the evening it worked better when we hit the clubs.

hens night 3

We played games, there was  topless waiter, it was just girls letting go of their inhibitions and having a great time (as you can see how excited a married woman can be!) . Usually at a Hen’s night when all the bride’s friends are from different walks of life and who you have never properly met can get a little awkward at times. However, this was not the case, everyone got along so well and everyone seems to have the same kind of humour. As a host, that is one of the most important things to consider on a Hen’s night, otherwise you could end up offending someone or make them feel uncomfortable which you don’t want to do. It also depends on the personality of the Hen, does she prefer a more classy do or she wants to let down her hair. The one organising it, has to have an idea what kind of guests she is catering for…I would have to say it is also one of the trickiest.

hens night

It was such a hilarious night, I met the rest of the girls who will be coming to Bali and everyone was relaxed and had a good laugh so no doubt we will have a second round when we all arrive in Bali. Plus we were lucky to be able to use the common room in Mishy’s apartment, so the event felt personal and ‘safe’. By 11pm we ventured out and got up to mischief out in Northbridge, Perth.

Have you had to organise a Hen’s night before? What theme did you have and what games did you play?

Here are a list of links that helped me with Mishy’s Hen’s night. Maybe it can help you too:

Hen’s night games

Tasteful Hen’s night games 

Pecka products

Reject Shop – for all the Tropical themed decorations

Topless Waiter

Some of these links are Perth specific, but you can always get ideas from around your city by typing in to Google. Google is the Bomb!

Have a great weekend guys!

E-von