Small business lessons – how to accept failure and move on

I can’t believe how much time has past by this year, I haven’t even begun to think of plans for 2014. It’s crazy… I have been so busy with my personal life that sadly this blog has been pushed aside. And recently, I mentioned to you on my Facebook Page that things haven’t been fairing so well…my positive outlook mainly. This year, life has thrown me many highs and many lows too. I used to be so good at overlooking the negatives and just moving on.

But sometimes, when you get hit down so many times you start believing in your mind that maybe it’s true…I am a failure. I made these wrong decisions that lead me down this path. Cut a long story short, I was juggling too much on my plate. Which included two businesses, and one didn’t work out. I didn’t want to become a statistic, after all they say ‘more than 50% of start-up businesses fail in their first year’…but it happened and I am reeling from it.

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Turn failure into an open door

So I’m not sure what I should do now…I feel a little lost. And my other business which I am most passionate about has been growing steadily this year. I’m just going to keep taking it to the next level and try to forget about my past failures, or at least learn from my mistakes.

I didn’t have any experience in running a business and I knew I wasn’t prepared with all the numbers. I am the creative type, those numbers and paperwork can be such a bore. But I realise how important they are to supporting what I love doing…something I feel passionate about. So if you are thinking of a great business idea, don’t forget to keep up with the numbers…don’t stop analysing, planning, thinking outside of the box and on top of the money.

Because truth be told, creativity is so much more satisfying to the soul! But being money smart and organising your accounts will make the business happen like clockwork.

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I feel this picture says it all, being a creative you have to be open to criticism from others and yourself, to be free and not even consider the idea of ‘failure’. The fear of failure I learnt can make you second guess yourself, impact your normal reactions and can kill creativity.

The last 12 months, I have been on questioning myself, who am I and can I do this?  This post was not intended to deter you from pursuing your own dreams, I want you to know that uncertainty and unpreparedness is something you don’t want to have when you start your business. Always been on top of your game and keep the back room running smoothly, or why not hire someone. That way you can keep killin’ it they best way you know how!

You know I always have your back. Don’t ever stop dreaming and don’t give up on your passions!

Have a great weekend

E-von

Discovering new adult friendships

Lately I have discovered something about myself, I know I am easy going, friendly and open person but I also found out I am still shy, cautious and I have been saying no to the potential of making new friends as an adult. Can we all agree – Being an adult is so complex, I never knew that it would be this way when I was a teenager who couldn’t wait to spread my wings and fly. I have been lucky in my life that I have kept friends from my childhood, my best friend is still the person I met when I was 6. We grew up but still grew into individuals who respect and love each other. As we move into adulthood, the element of trust is difficult to have with a stranger…therefore adult friendships appear so complex.

As much as I love my tight knit group of school friends, I feel that for so many years I have closed the opportunity to connect to others and meet new people. In a way, I guess I kind of felt I was betraying them with new friendships made outside of the circle. Or not being able to express my personal thoughts and trust someone to understand them. As an adult it can be tricky to make those close connections with a another adult…because it is a whole different playground. Being a kid in the playground was easy, friendships were made over sharing a bag of chips or laughing at the same cartoons. With adults it’s about emotional connections and similar experiences. Developing a friendship in adulthood, is when you can share something that you wouldn’t normally share with a wider group.

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I am a naturally reserved and private person, so without being aware of it, the way I would go about avoiding making new close friendships was to say no to outings or activities that was outside of my ‘comfort’ zone. So this time, I decided I want to change that way about myself and make an effort to connect.

So far I have begun to meet up with other mums from Lil Miss S school and started seeing my work friends outside of work. I am enjoying it very much, breaking free from my shell and not being shy about being social. It’s quite liberating and my confidence is growing day by day. I am learning so much more and life is enriched by different interactions.

If you are feeling a little lonely and need to find a friend to share common interests with, don’t be shy, I encourage everyone of you to reach out and give new friendships a chance. By allowing yourself to become ‘available’ again and share your likes & dislikes you may find another alike human being. We get so bound by the ‘busyness’ of it all, life and especially the interference of social media that we forget how to interact like humans and regain that emotional connection again with another person. It is such a beautiful and refreshing thing to care for another person, to smile, to enjoy a moment. Something that is completely different to passionate love, or filial love…friendship is such a gift.

Friendships is not measured by the number of people who you have on your Facebook. It’s about how many will stand by your side when you are in trouble or when you need help and a listening ear.

Have a great Wednesday! Wow…only 1 more day till a 4 day weekend. Wootwoot!

E-von

Adios 20s and Hello to the 30s

From the beginning of last week I could no longer describe myself as ‘a 20-something year old’, the clock has ticked over and 2014 is the year when I say goodbye to my twenties and hello to my proper adulthood the 30s. So for now, everywhere I go I have to reprogram to describe myself as a ’30-something year old’…well at least I have one more year left till I have to say that.

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However, it’s kind of odd and embarrassing when I’m out with my kids, and someone asks me ‘Are those your brothers and sisters?’. I could have died of ‘happiness’ on the spot. As I am often mistaken for a teenager, still studying and preparing for my year 12 ball (apparently these situations have only happened in the past year or so – strangely in the last year of my twenties). I guess my twenties was the decade where I had a lot of growing up to do and FAST, I got married had my three beautiful babies and now I feel I am a lot more stable and confident knowing what I want to do with the rest of my life.

Although, during my twenties I couldn’t give myself 100% to find out who I really am. I dedicated the time to raising my children, helping them to find themselves. And I developed a very caring, motherly role…and this will continue for the rest of my life. But I also have to realise I still have to leave time for me, to do that soul searching that other 20-somethings have the opportunity to do. I never really had the travel bug or want to study more. One degree is enough! For me, to find myself is to find a way to contribute to the world. I just want to make a difference to have a voice and teach/motivate/help others to find themselves if they are feeling lost.

So if I could give some advice to my 30 year old self, let me suggest a few things:

–  be strong in the face of failure and mistake. To grow wings again and to start again if need be

–  allow time for relaxation, quiet and things that bring you pleasure to be enjoyed

–  speak up when things do not make you happy

–  say ‘no’ more

–  pick your opportunities and go full speed ahead

–  continue to see the positives and the light in times of darkness

–  lift up those who have lost the strength to carry on

– meet new friends, make new bonds and connections

–  take deep breaths and enjoy the naturescapes around you

– take care of yourself mentally and physically as further down the track your body will thank you

I have so many things I still need to learn and listen to my inner self. No matter how old we are we are constantly learning, absorbing, feeling and we shouldn’t allow age or a number to dictate how ‘mature’ we get. I have spoken to many 70 and 80 year old who still giggle and joke around like teenagers. Beauty fades but the heart still remains the same.

Stay tuned for my Birthday Haul video coming soon. I’m currently working on the editing and should be up tomorrow.

Have a great week!

E-von