Discovering new adult friendships

Lately I have discovered something about myself, I know I am easy going, friendly and open person but I also found out I am still shy, cautious and I have been saying no to the potential of making new friends as an adult. Can we all agree – Being an adult is so complex, I never knew that it would be this way when I was a teenager who couldn’t wait to spread my wings and fly. I have been lucky in my life that I have kept friends from my childhood, my best friend is still the person I met when I was 6. We grew up but still grew into individuals who respect and love each other. As we move into adulthood, the element of trust is difficult to have with a stranger…therefore adult friendships appear so complex.

As much as I love my tight knit group of school friends, I feel that for so many years I have closed the opportunity to connect to others and meet new people. In a way, I guess I kind of felt I was betraying them with new friendships made outside of the circle. Or not being able to express my personal thoughts and trust someone to understand them. As an adult it can be tricky to make those close connections with a another adult…because it is a whole different playground. Being a kid in the playground was easy, friendships were made over sharing a bag of chips or laughing at the same cartoons. With adults it’s about emotional connections and similar experiences. Developing a friendship in adulthood, is when you can share something that you wouldn’t normally share with a wider group.

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I am a naturally reserved and private person, so without being aware of it, the way I would go about avoiding making new close friendships was to say no to outings or activities that was outside of my ‘comfort’ zone. So this time, I decided I want to change that way about myself and make an effort to connect.

So far I have begun to meet up with other mums from Lil Miss S school and started seeing my work friends outside of work. I am enjoying it very much, breaking free from my shell and not being shy about being social. It’s quite liberating and my confidence is growing day by day. I am learning so much more and life is enriched by different interactions.

If you are feeling a little lonely and need to find a friend to share common interests with, don’t be shy, I encourage everyone of you to reach out and give new friendships a chance. By allowing yourself to become ‘available’ again and share your likes & dislikes you may find another alike human being. We get so bound by the ‘busyness’ of it all, life and especially the interference of social media that we forget how to interact like humans and regain that emotional connection again with another person. It is such a beautiful and refreshing thing to care for another person, to smile, to enjoy a moment. Something that is completely different to passionate love, or filial love…friendship is such a gift.

Friendships is not measured by the number of people who you have on your Facebook. It’s about how many will stand by your side when you are in trouble or when you need help and a listening ear.

Have a great Wednesday! Wow…only 1 more day till a 4 day weekend. Wootwoot!

E-von

Enter the Easter Giveaway at SELF Organics

Hey, hope you all had a rejuvenating weekend! I had the perfect weekend, as I got to witness my best friend walk down the aisle at our primary school church and get hitched.  Then I spent the first days of school holidays with my kids by taking them to the park and had a play date at one of those play gyms. It was busy, my muscles  ache from playing on the play equipment but loads of fun.

Sorry for the shameless plug for my organic bath and body biz, but I thought you guys might be interested to enter this competition as the prize is Easter inspired, smells delicious but does not go straight to your hips. I didn’t want any of you to miss out as there are only 4 days left to enter the SELF Organics Easter Giveaway. So you must hop to it!

The winner will receive one of the new hand poured soy wax candles ‘Self Determination’, it is a rich chocolate scented candle. The fragrance is a lovely warming scent for Autumn and it is indulgent without touching the lips! Packaged in a shiny travel tin and weighs 170gm, it has 20+ hours of burn time.

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To enter, all you have to do is a couple of steps:

  1. Like the SELF Organics Facebook Page or be a follower of our Instagram account
  2. Like our ‘giveaway’ image
  3. Share or regram the image (hash tag – #selforganics and @selforganics for instagram users)

Win a Soy Wax Scented Candle

I’ll be selecting the winner based on all of the three criteria above and who ever writes the most creative comment. Please share away and you could be one of the first to try this gorgeous wood wicked candle. The special element of a wood wick candle is when it is burnt, it gives off a subtle wooden smell and produces a soothing crackling sound. Similar to that of a camp fire. Ahhh Winter here we come!

So good luck to everyone! Make sure you tell your family and friends to enter too.

And enjoy the short working week ahead!

E-von

Top 5 Au Naturel Beauty Products for Autumn

Essqueeze me Summer, you can go now…why are you still hanging around and making it hot and dry for everyone? My love of Summer is somewhat ‘weathering’ away (sorry…that was lame) but I am really looking forward to my favourite season of the year, Autumn, which rarely hangs around at all. Our Perth climate is funny one, as it tends to make a giant leap from Summer straight into Winter.

And I believe it is important to change skincare with the seasons. Summer beauty means lighter creams, and the cooler months bring the indulgent rich creams. So at the moment I am caught in between the season with what to slap on my skin.

One thing though that I realised, is my skincare has drastically moved from non-natural to all natural! Since turning 30, I have decided that it is absolutely key to take care of myself the best possible way NOW…to ensure that I maintain my youth as long as possible! Not only the outside but my insides as well. I have begun to look at ways to live more ‘cleanly’ e.g. eating clean and as well as my beauty products. It is the best thing I can do for my future self. Although I still have yet to learn to sleep at a reasonable time!

So today I share my top 5 au natural products that I’m currently using in between the seasons.

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  1. Neutrogena Naturals Multi-Vitamin Nourishing Moisturiser, this is an everyday light moisturiser packed full of vitamins to boost the brightness of the skin, hydrate and contains bionutrients that improve the look of the skin making it appear younger. It is non-greasy and absorbs into the skin nicely. It doesn’t contain any petrochemicals, sulfates dyes and parabens. So it’s doing a good thing for me, without me having to think about it!
  2. POD Self tanning body butter with SPF15, I really like this liquid tan, it doesn’t smell like other horrible tanners…it is actually smells like cocoa butter and the tan is gradual and subtle. My skin is quite fair so this really helps inter-seasonal when I want a healthy tanned look. Plus it is natural!! The tube is generous, so it lasts for ages.
  3. Cosmecology Mask Hydra, my goodness this mask is an absolute saviour! I was feel sick last week and at the end of the recovery I felt my skin had lost a lot of moisture. It felt so dehydrated so I popped on this mask and it my skin instantly felt soft and full of hydration! I like to use this once a week to awaken the skin again, it makes me feel human after a hard working week.
  4. Nuxe Huile Prodigieuse dry oil, this is my favourite go-to multitasking product at the moment. I use this on my hair, skin and face. It smells so beautiful and makes me feel that way too! Something very luxe about this dry oil, it leaves my skin feeling soft and moisturised throughout the whole day and it is non-greasy even though it is an oil. Nuxe uses botanicals in their products and the smell of the oil reminds me of flower fields.
  5. SELF Organics, Calm Balm, a family favourite and one I make and sell at my online store. It contains lavender, eucalyptus, patchouli organic essential oils and organic shea, cocoa butter and beeswax that just melts into the skin. The other week I got bitten by a spider in my car, I didn’t know what to apply on the mark so I applied some of the balm and it helped with the healing process. I didn’t bruise as bad as I usually do with insect bites. And it soothed the itchiness of the area. The kids love it too, the smell makes them feel calm. It helps me get sleep too, when I apply it on my chest and temples, instant relaxation right there.

Do you like the sound of any natural beauty products above? 

What are looking forward to most during the Winter months? I am looking forward to winter wardrobe, drinking hot chocolate and sitting indoors watching a movie whilst listening to the rain pitter patter. *Sigh* bring on the cool I say…

Today I am going to church to watch my best friend walk down the aisle at my primary school church. I’m sure there will be plenty of tears of joy and laughter. Looking forward to this day since I first met this angel 24 years ago!

Hope you have a fabulous weekend!

E-von